Comments on What Do I Know; I'm Just The Babysitter: Training Camp

to the poster about the coat comment- you could sa...

2009-10-30T11:30:00.861-04:00

to the poster about the coat comment-
you could say to mom that little johnny does a great job getting ready for outdoor play during the day
or make it a game "johnny lets show mom how fast you can get your coat on"
or firm, stern, no none sense"coat on its cold outside"
or have him get ready a few mins before mom arrives for pick up
just my 2 cents:)
momof2

Dear above poster; Tell the child that she tidies ...

2009-10-29T17:39:47.110-04:00

Dear above poster; Tell the child that she tidies when everyone does it or she'll do it all herself while everyone watches her. No tidying...no playing next time might work too.
Kimmar

Wow, I am dealing with this now I have my own 17mt...

2009-10-29T14:38:37.932-04:00

Wow, I am dealing with this now I have my own 17mth old and a daycare 12mth old girl who clean up the toy room better then the 2yr old daycare girl. She spends many a days in time-out for not listening or cleaning up her mess. I am at the end of my sanity rope. Any suggestions on how to get her to listen are welcomed. Time-outs and taking away things like dancing, music etc don't seem to work for her. I really think its an attention thing but am really out of ideas. People are amazed that I can get three babies to clean up their toys, but the big girl is off ignoring me and loving every minute of it, she is a big time manipulator.

I completely agree with this whole post. "I d...

2009-10-29T13:12:53.667-04:00

I completely agree with this whole post. "I dont see how you get them to sleep",.. I tell them to sleep,... "I dont see how you get them to eat veggies,.." I tell them to eat veggies. I dont know why they dont behave for me, because you dont tell them to. Parents seem to think if a child says no, or spits something out, or doesnt begin something like picking up,... that they are unable. Or not big enough. Here, at about 10-14 mo we ditch the pack and play, go to a cot. Usually when they start walking. We eat lunch, have story diaper and potty time, then go to sleep. Its not an option. We pick up toys before lunch,.. or we dont eat. period. I check every day,.. every hiding spot. We dont go outside until inside toys are put away. Period. I will sit with my shoes on on the couch and wait. I do not accept the words" no -- I cant -- or I don't want to" in my home. I sometimes wish I had a webcam for them to watch. Yes, I get things done, Yes, they behave, Yes, I expect it so it is. Kind of like if you build it they will come,.... If you expect it day after day never wavering,.. they will do it. laundryduchess

I have a family who always use pick up time to ...

2009-10-29T12:12:55.838-04:00

I have a family who always use pick up time to 'teach' their child a lesson. When she won't put on her shoes/coat (almost 5 years old), they threaten to leave her at my house. She still wont, they pick her up and carry her to the car. My rule: Don't threaten if you won't do it, and always do what you say. All my kids know, if I say we're skipping the park because little Julie won't hold my hand across the street, they will pressure her into behaving.

You won't beleive this but I had DC parents of...

2009-10-29T10:48:24.567-04:00

You won't beleive this but I had DC parents of a 2 yr old who had no idea she could walk up and down a flight of stairs! Even though they lived in a multi level house the carried her everywere she had to go.
They were shocked beyond belief that their "Baby" could handel the stairs. (she had been going up and down the stairs at my house since she was 10 months old.)

Another great one Judy! Question: how do you expla...

2009-10-29T09:41:40.541-04:00

Another great one Judy!
Question: how do you explain to a parent that the screaming child refusing to put her own coat on or walk to the car is in fact "manipulating" her and not just sick or sad? I try not to use the word manipulate because so many people think it is a negative word.

Judy where have you been my whole daycare life?!! ...

2009-10-29T08:45:48.581-04:00

Judy where have you been my whole daycare life?!! What an awesome blog, and totally described my day yesterday with my PT "Babyzilla". Thanks for the laugh before my starts full tilt!

I love you Judy! How about the parents that arriv...

2009-10-29T07:12:35.479-04:00

I love you Judy! How about the parents that arrive to pickup right as their child is doing an amazing task never performed at home - ie: cleaning up, or putting on his shoes, etc. - mom will announce: I don't know how you get him to do that? He won't do that for me at home. Or He always runs away from me at home - how do you keep him focused on the task? Some parents SHEESH!!

Thanks Judy! You are always thinking what I am th...

2009-10-28T22:18:59.823-04:00

Thanks Judy! You are always thinking what I am thinking, at some point in the day something that you blog about always comes up, and I just laugh when I think about what you would say.

Judy, I would just like to say thank you. It is be...

2009-10-28T16:08:27.052-04:00

Judy, I would just like to say thank you. It is because of posts like this that us daycare providers are starting to say no. NO to picking up toys and for some many other things. All my 2 yr old daycare children can put on their own shoes, but yet 1 of the 2 yr old mom thinks that at pickup she has to put on her lil girls shoes. It makes me sad to see parents not caring enough to take the time to teach children. Thanks so much Judy for all you do.

Judy, I love your blog. I am not a daycare provide...

2009-10-28T16:04:26.629-04:00

Judy, I love your blog. I am not a daycare provider, but the parent of a child who attends daycare part time. I fully agree with you that children need to be trained. My almost 3 year old clears his dishes from the table after dinner, and washes his hands and face. He is self sufficient in the washroom, can put on his own clothes, shoes and coat. I encourage his independence and expect him to clean up after himself.

High expectations are the only way to go!