Comments on What Do I Know; I'm Just The Babysitter: Trading Cupcakes For Parents

"What a bunch of judgmental assholes you all ...

2009-12-23T18:30:50.022-05:00

"What a bunch of judgmental assholes you all are"

When a child is what can only be described as "abandoned" on their birthday at my home, in DAYCARE...then yes. You have been judged. I think it's terrible. Birthdays are special, and I can understand if parents have to work etc...but I have NEVER had a parent who has had the child celebrate with my family, celebrate it at home.
AND i've had mother's ditch their child at Daycare on the child's birthday to not even have work, or celebrate the event later.

I'm entitled to FEEL. I FEEL it's wrong to not spend a birthday with your kid. ESPECIALLY if you are able.

You can't possibly think that's okay. If you do that's fine, but this is a blog for the opinions of the providers (NOT ONE PROVIDER WILL AGREE THAT IT IS OKAY TO LEAVE A CHILD IN DAYCARE ON THEIR BIRTHDAY..UNLESS THERE ARE SPECIAL CIRCUMSTANCES)

This is Daycare PROVIDER Connection
NOT
PARENT Connection.
~S~

What a bunch of judgmental assholes you all are.

2009-12-22T00:46:20.766-05:00

What a bunch of judgmental assholes you all are.

I've actually had a child in my care on their ...

2009-10-20T15:38:07.341-04:00

I've actually had a child in my care on their first birthday before! Can you believe it? Never in a million years could I live with myself for not taking the day with my child for their first birthday.

Over 3 months of paid vacation a year???? Holy cra...

2009-10-18T10:50:06.275-04:00

Over 3 months of paid vacation a year???? Holy crap! Where do they work? I want that deal too. I've never heard of that much vacation unless you've been somewhere for 30+ years and even then it's only 30 days a year! WOW!

While I wouldn't assume a parent would take th...

2009-10-15T22:25:03.375-04:00

While I wouldn't assume a parent would take their child's birthday off or bring cupcakes to my home for a "party", I'd be hurt for the child if I knew the parent was actually off and didn't spend extra time with their kids. SAD!

Glad even though you feel angry, you can provide a positive memory for the child today with their daycare friends. - Well the important thing to take away from this is that we shouldnt dwell on how much of a **hole the parents were but just work hard to provide the child with a memorable experience that will not only honor their birthday but make them feel that their parents did give a rats tushie.

I have experienced something similar in my busines...

2009-10-15T22:22:40.970-04:00

I have experienced something similar in my business, where the parents of the child I was caring for literally asked me if they could just give me a couple of hundred dollars to arrange the kids birthday party and take pictures for them because they had other things to do that day. Yes, it is sad but we have to face the reality that not all families are gifted with nurturing parents.

You have to understand that these situations are e...

2009-10-15T22:21:05.505-04:00

You have to understand that these situations are excactly why there are nanies and daycares to begin with. It may be an unprofound thing to say but the situation of today's society foster the provision of a secondary parent in the image of a daycare provider or hired help.

I have had this happen too, parents off all day, c...

2009-10-15T14:15:21.429-04:00

I have had this happen too, parents off all day, child spending the day with me. Sad. I understand that life is busy, but birthdays should be special.

I had to laugh this morning, one of my moms brough...

2009-10-15T11:14:59.117-04:00

I had to laugh this morning, one of my moms brought in home made muffins this morning :) Maybe she's a following of your blog Judy?? It was nobody's birthday but it was nice to have a treat to share with the kids today :)

While I wouldn't assume a parent would take th...

2009-10-15T10:28:54.639-04:00

While I wouldn't assume a parent would take their child's birthday off or bring cupcakes to my home for a "party", I'd be hurt for the child if I knew the parent was actually off and didn't spend extra time with their kids. SAD!

Glad even though you feel angry, you can provide a positive memory for the child today with their daycare friends.

I'll be PollyAnna as well and say the parents will have a party with family and/or friends on the weekend. It's not always about TODAY and we can't assume they aren't celebrating in another way. Let's not carry this too far. Judging can be harsh.

LMM

That is sad and disgusting that a parent would do ...

2009-10-14T22:21:24.375-04:00

That is sad and disgusting that a parent would do that. I could understand if they couldn't take the day off for their b-day but to take it off AND still take them to your house...that's brutal. I can just feel the love radiating off of them...insert eye roll.

From what I've gathered it often comes down to...

2009-10-14T17:30:45.986-04:00

From what I've gathered it often comes down to -I have to pay for the day if my child attends or not, must get my money's worth.

Enjoy the memmories you are helping to create for these children.

Well, no party tonight. Sad, sad, sad. On another ...

2009-10-14T17:07:51.567-04:00

Well, no party tonight. Sad, sad, sad. On another note....I have NEVER had a parent bring cupcakes or a cake for their child's birthday. Nope, it's ALWAYS little ole me who rises to the occassion. Some parents just suck.

Once again, well written! I do not get it. And how...

2009-10-14T17:03:58.248-04:00

Once again, well written!
I do not get it. And how is hard to bring cupcakes TO daycare so your child can share their special day with their friends.
I do not ask or tell them no about cupcakes. Never had a parent ask until Feb. of this year. I said sure, bring 'em! In June, another Mom brought them for their child. Now, the Mom of my 4 yr old knows this and I wasnt sure if they would follow thru and bring something yesterday or not. I was pretty sure NOT. I was right. He has been in my care for 3 years, he turned 4. He has been here to see his friends parents bring cupcakes to celebrate their birthdays and KNOWS he should have them too. Well, good daycare provider that I am and knowing these parents as I do. I asked him last week WHAT flavor he wanted, had it here in case and quickly made them and had them in the oven within 15 min. of his arrival. We had a great day, he was pleased but it just made me MAD at the parents! Take 5 min. at the store and pick up a package of cookies or cupcakes, etc.
As for your parent Judy who is home on their child's special day while they are at your house, well they just suck! ITA with a previous post about let's hope they are off today so they can be creating a birthday party of AWESOME proportion but I doubt it.
HUGS to you for being a GREAT provider and creating a special day for those girls!!!

I have been blessed not to have to go through this...

2009-10-14T14:51:42.145-04:00

I have been blessed not to have to go through this with a child...something that I will appreciate even more after this post. Of course, we still do the birthday song and dance around here too, but usually it has to be a day or two early since mom and dad step up and take the day off. Now, if they were unable to, that's one thing...but if you're right, and one of them is home (let's hope prepping for a surprise party like pp suggested) my heart is saddened. Good Lord, there's even 2 kiddos to celebrate!
Lorena

I myself went through this last month. A little bo...

2009-10-14T14:42:05.898-04:00

I myself went through this last month. A little boy I watch-his mother had the odacity to inform me I was to give him his cake and his present-from them-and take pictures of him eating his cake. It was heartbreaking.
I also found out that the only celebration of the event would be that one at my house. So he didn't even get a party later with friends or anything.
So sad.

Well I already commented about this on your facebo...

2009-10-14T14:01:27.286-04:00

Well I already commented about this on your facebook this morning. I am still saddened by this. What kind of work do these parents do? We are obviously in the wrong line of work Judy! But there is no way I'd leave my kid at the sitters if I was to secure their birthday off of work!!! Do your kids have b-days coming up? You should pointedly take those days off to teach these loser parents a lesson!

That is so sad, really. Why some people even both...

2009-10-14T13:54:36.640-04:00

That is so sad, really. Why some people even bother having children, I really don't know; clearly not because they enjoy them.

Let me be the Angel of Optimism here and suggest t...

2009-10-14T13:15:45.400-04:00

Let me be the Angel of Optimism here and suggest that these parents are obviously using this time, with their 2 darlings out of the house, to prepare their home for the out of this world, fantastical surprise party awaiting the kid's return tonight. There will be clowns and ponies and make your own sundaes, and all of their friends and family will be there with gifts galore!!

I know this because that would be the only thing that would make these 2 kids being left in care on their birthday while a parent is at home an alright deal. Because of course these parents are aware that their darlings will never turn 3 again, and that the experiences they have today will be the lifelong memories they carry forever. That's just not something caring parents like these would ever neglect. What lucky kids!! (insert fake smile here/add eyeroll)

This makes me so sad. As said above, they are luc...

2009-10-14T12:41:45.385-04:00

This makes me so sad.
As said above, they are lucky to have you.

Tara.

Oh Judy, my heart goes out to those girls. They ar...

2009-10-14T11:00:09.985-04:00

Oh Judy, my heart goes out to those girls. They are so lucky to have you in their life.
Marilyn